Little Black Book

A Personal Matchmaking Service for Londoners.

Will your relationship last?

Here is an adaption of my compatibility test as published in Mail Online (23 October 2016) .  This is definitely a test for the established relationship.  If you’re just starting out this is something to aim for.   If you’ve been together for a while and can answer  ‘yes’ to 8 out of 11 of the following questions then you’re on to something special and long term.  Good luck.

 

1.    Are you best possible version of yourselves?

None of us our so straight forward that we are just the same kind of person throughout our lives.  In this relationship,  ask yourself if you are you the best person you have ever been because of the person you’re with?

 

2.    Do you trust each other without question?

Do you wonder where your partner is on a night out? Do you need to know every detail about where they were or whom they were with?  Are you ever tempted to check the check their phone messages or email?  If so, you can’t answer yes to this question.

 

3.     Do you both feel that you are the lucky one in the relationship and acknowledge it regularly?

 This has to work both ways. 

 

4.     Can you both imagine the long-term future and being old together

If you’ve talked about how you imagine spending your old age and you’re in each other’s scenarios, then this an obvious sign of relationship longevity.

 

5.     Are you best friends?

        You tell each other everything, you speak everyday and you laugh together.

 

6.     Do you like each other’s family and friends (the odd exception is fine ;-)

Our friends and family define us, if they like you and you like them but your partner doesn’t, something doesn’t add up.

 

7.     Do you support each other’s decisions?

For all the major decisions whether it be work, family or financial, are you on the same page? Or even if you can’t agree completely can you support the final decision anyway.

 

8.     Do you do things apart?

If you do everything together, you will soon run out of things to talk about.  Having your own hobbies or just seeing friends separately adds interest to the relationship and makes you appreciate the time you have together more.

 

9.     Do you have interests together?

 A healthy relationship is about finding the right balance between question 7 and 8.  There should be a least a       couple of things you enjoy doing together on a regular basis, weather it be a joint favourite TV programme or a shared hobby.

 

10.  Do you agree on the big stuff?

The small and medium stuff doesn’t really matter you can debate that or come to a compromise (see number 11) but it’s the really big stuff that matters like; the way you bring up your children, do you even want children? major financial decisions and where this relationship is heading.

 

11. Can you manage conflict?

You can’t agree with your partner all of the time on everything that would be very dull.  It’s how the disagreements pan out that matter.  Can you  have good healthy disagreement, that doesn’t escalate into something huge, then kiss and makeup at the end of it?

 

If you couldn’t answer yes to 8 out of 11, it doesn’t mean your relationship is doomed, but this quiz might give you a couple of areas to work on.  If you answer yes to all 11 then enjoy the bliss, you are both very lucky xx